How to Introduce Sex Toys in The Bedroom

Sex toys are typically associated with masturbation. Vibrators, dildos, bullets are all fantastic for a woman to achieve orgasms by herself. But how about using a sex toy with your partner? What are the advantages?

If you have been in a relationship for a while, your sex life might have reached a plateau. You know each other’s bodies and moves, and things are not as exciting as they could be. Introducing something new into the bedroom could definitely kick up the passion a notch.

Great sex starts with open communication. If you would like to bring a sex toy into the bedroom, don’t shock your partner by whipping out your favorite giant vibrator. Instead, talk to your partner when you are both relaxed and in a friendly mood. Have the conversation over dinner or coffee, not in the bedroom.  Suggest the introduction of a sex toy as an added bonus to your already awesome sex life, not as a substitute. Talk about what you already enjoy about each other, and then explore what could be fun in addition to that. When it comes to sex, egos are fragile, so listen to your partner and make sure your partner listens to you.

Toys are not a replacement for the partner. They don’t kiss and have body heat; they don’t talk to you and look you in the eyes. There is no emotional connection. Think of a toy as a sexual enhancement designed to bring more pleasure to both of you.

Sex therapists often prescribe sex toys for their clients because they know the introduction of a toy will inspire communication and trigger passion.

Explore the possibilities! Talking about a new opportunity for adventure can get you both going in the right direction. Consider each other’s feelings and don’t apply pressure. You may be comfortable and familiar with Old Faithful, but your partner might need a little time and mental adjustment to get into a groove with the notion of using a sex toy in the bedroom.

Know your toy. Understanding how the sex toy of choice works, what it is capable of, and where it can be used, takes the mystery out of it.  This will open new doors of exploration, while everyone involved feels comfortable. Using a sex toy with a partner can increase pleasure for both of you, but it is particularly handy if you have never had an orgasm or only rarely have one. Quite a few women can reach orgasm during masturbation but not with a partner. Here, too, a vibrating toy used during intercourse can make all the difference.  If you want to break out of your sexual rut and rekindle your passion, a sex toy can do the trick.  Let your partner watch while you play with your toy and see how his sparks start flying. The possibilities are vast!

Sex toys are safe and fun, and they are a fantastic way to turn up the heat in the bedroom.