Fetish Toys

Fetish toys are used to enhance and intensify sexual experiences. Fetish is usually associated with sexual practices that are a little ‘out there’. However, read on and learn how to enhance your sex life while maintaining a safe approach. Many BDSM methods (bondage, domination, sadism, masochism) have become more mainstream. So sit back, relax, and expand your repertoire.

Tie me up – tie me down! Bondage is one of the ways to increase your sexual pleasure. You can use a silk scarf, which feels sensual but is also strong. Not being able to move while your partner is pleasuring you can take you to the extremes of ecstasy. Perhaps you have been fantasizing about being dominated – or being the dominator. This is your chance! However, go slowly and pay attention to your partner’s reactions. This should be fun, but not hurt or instill fear. Discussing what you want to do or have done is important before you begin veering off from your routine.

Candle Wax will add a sensory facet to your erotic games. Have a burning candle handy. When your partner is aroused, dribble a little hot wax on a less sensitive area – say the thigh. Gauge the reaction – if the wax is met with an “ow!” it might be better to back off. If your partner starts moaning with pleasure, proceed with the fun! For starters you might want to get a soy oil candle. These do not get nearly as hot as ‘real’ wax and are less likely to actually burn the skin. In addition, when you’re finished dribbling the warm wax, you can continue with a sensual massage; soy oil is ideal for it!

Spanking can add a whole new dimension in the bedroom. You can use your hand or any number of paddles for sale at a sex toy store. Or, just use the ping pong paddle from the rec room.  In any case, proceed with mutual agreement and go lightly at first. Let your partner’s reaction be your guide to how firmly you spank. Intermittently, massage the spanked area with oil, so you will alternately give pleasure and pain. If your partner is really into this, sex after or during spanking can be incredibly intense.

Try a blindfold! Deprivation of one of the senses heightens all the rest of them. If you or your partner can’t see what’s going on, hearing, smell, touch, and taste will be intensified. Your voice will have new magical powers. Your touch will send your partner over the edge. Use a feather instead of your fingers and let the writhing begin!

Cock rings are great toys for him and her. A cock ring will help the penis engorge more with blood and increase in girth by quite a bit. A vibrating cock ring will stimulate the woman’s clitoris during sex – especially if she sits on top. Always use lubricant with the cock ring so your pubic hair doesn’t get pulled out – ouch.

When using any or all of these suggestions, only proceed with mutual agreement. Have a discussion over coffee (not in the bedroom) and share with each other what you have always wanted to do. If both partners are game, have fun and be safe. As you explore these toys and practices and develop trust in each other, you might discover other delights as well.